Chapter 95

Fall Down - Get Up, Fall Down - Get Up

Today's Empowering Quote

"Perseverance is failing 19 times and succeeding the 20th."
-J. Andrews

Today's Empowering Question

"Isn't there something else I can try to get the job done?"

Today's Fast Session

Awesome message today!!!!

It seems like at every turn, we get confirmation that some thing that we're working on or something that we want to happen isn't going to go quite like we planned.  I mean, doesn't it seem like no matter what you're doing- homework, yard work, packing for a trip, fixing a broken 'something- or-other,' that it takes longer than you planned or might not work at all?

And doesn't it get you really upset to invest a whole lot of time into something and watch it all go 'Poof!' before your eyes?

Many of us have been conditioned to believe that easy is best.  We're surrounded by examples of this everywhere:

- Why buy the walk-behind mower when you can get a riding one?
- Stand up to change channels? Just use the remote!
- Why chop, slice and cook fresh food when ready-to-cook and frozen is available?
- Exercise to lose fat? I'll just get liposuction someday.
- Adopt healthy eating habits? No way-I'll just pop this diet pill or magic herb to lose weight.
- Go to counseling or take other self-help measures to feel upbeat? It's easier just to pop an anti-depressant everyday.

Now don't get me wrong, there may be instances where these "conveniences" could be necessary.  Someone may need to use a riding mower if they have leg problems and cannot walk to mow the lawn. Someone may be helped by an anti-depressant in conjunction with therapy following the death of a loved one.

But for the most part, the conveniences that surround our lives are the result of, and help perpetuate, the "easy is best" mindset.  If it's tough, requires hard work or takes a long time, many people run and hide!

It doesn't help at all, does it, that the images we see on television show problems getting solved in 30 seconds, or at worst 60 minutes? So when our own problems take days, weeks and years to solve, it's too tempting to give up.  Call it quits...

...long before we should.

It's sad, but many of us, (and I was a part of this group until my mid twenties), "learn" that things don't go our way, usually.  We believe that nothing is easy.  And since "easy is best," why bother?

In short, we settle.

Eating right, for example, would require discipline.  Can't have that.  It's not easy or fun. So we "settle" for being not that fat and indulge in fast food.

Concentrating and studying would earn A's and B's, but it means ignoring all the fun things we could be doing right now.  So, we "settle" for just passing grades instead.

Having a vice like a drink or smoke comforts us when we do try something and we knew we would.

But it doesn't matter what age you are--you can start now to begin learning how rewarding and exhilarating it can be to shoot for something big.

Here's how.

Give yourself guideposts along the way.  If your goal has 20 steps, write down what each of them are.  When you reach each one, it's time for a little celebration.

How likely would you be to give up and quit after you reached a guidepost and it's time to celebrate?  Not very, huh?

Let's say you wanted to run 3 miles per day, 5 days per week. Look at the existing patterns-can't even walk 50 feet without being out of breath.  OK.  One guidepost could be to go for a 20-minute stroll without getting out of breath. After doing this for a week, you notice you're no longer getting winded.  It's time to celebrate!

Smile. Write down how you feel right now.  Ask yourself how you did it.  Write down the answer.  And smile some more.  Laugh if you want!

So you go a little longer now-30 minutes.  Once you have that down, you maybe pick up the pace from a stroll to a brisk stride.  Then you extend your time to 40 minutes. And so on.  One guidepost after another...

And let's say that you've done well for two whole months, and then you try to jog instead of walk and get all out of breath, sore and tired.  Did you fail?

Listen: Making mistakes ISN'T failure.  Failure is quitting.  So did you fail?  No. With a qualifier. You can't fail if you continue trying, and if you attempt to learn something from your setback.  In this case, you just tried to do too much too soon.

When I started climbing out of the hole I'd dug for myself in life, it seemed like I "failed" even more than before.  I fell down a lot.  After all, I was used to failing...really failing.

And it hurt. Really bad sometimes.

But the big difference was that I quit quitting.  I started learning what I was doing wrong and corrected it.  And failing some more.  And learning.  And succeeding. And failing and learning and succeeding again.

And I'm telling you that the procedure that I just shared with you is an often used formula of success in all areas of life.  Millions of people have done this.  Millions are doing it today to change their lives right now.

You can, too.

Pick a goal.  Doesn't matter what it is.  Apply the formula.  And when you're tempted to quit, look back at the guideposts that you've passed.  Smile.  Cry.  And get excited...

...Because you're on the right path.

Today's Winning Beliefs

-- I get back up and keep trying after a setback
-- I learn from every non-success
-- When I succeed, I ask how I did it and learn from it
-- At every setback, I ask why it happened and learn from it
-- All my goals give me the chance to succeed many times at many stages

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