Chapter 84


Today's Empowering Quote

"When nothing seems to help, I look at a stonecutter hammering away at his rock, perhaps 100 times without as much as a crack showing in it. Yet, at the 101st blow it will split in two, and I know it was not that last blow that did it, but all that had gone before."
-Jacob A. Riis

Today's Empowering Question

"Can't I keep going for just one more day, one more hour, one more minute?"

Today's Fast Session


That's what new years are for, aren't they? New beginnings.

"This is the year that I'm going to get in shape, quit the bad habit, start my new business, get better grades..."

And by January 14th, what usually has occurred?

Complete withdrawal of the New Year's Day resolution.  Back to the old ways.

Let's see what does resolution, or resolve really mean?

Webster's defines it as this:

Resolve - To form a purpose; to make a decision; especially, to determine after reflection; as, to resolve on a better course of life.


I notice that it doesn't say, "To try something out for a while."

No. To resolve is to form a purpose. To achieve something as part of a bigger plan.  So it would seem to me that to achieve anything worthwhile, even crucial, you would need to keep in mind the 'Big Picture.'

You must continually ask yourself why you're doing this thing. You need to know why you're giving up all that luscious chocolate, or the television, or the gambling.

It must go back to the word "Purpose." Isn't that true?

No purpose means no resolve. A BIG purpose makes it easier to stay the course.

I mean if there are no big, emotion-stirring benefits at the end AND along the way, why would you put forth any effort?

You wouldn't...

And that's why so many New Year's Day resolutions are quickly forgotten.

Let's make a switch. What do you say?

In fact, not just now, but when we want anything big, whether it be some material thing, health goals, relationship goals, let's focus on some new stuff.

Namely, what's truly in it for you?

If you have no reasons, ones that you can really get behind and defend when that little voice tells you that it's OK to slip, you'll give in every time.

You must keep your eye on the benefits.  They need to be good.

What are the emotional benefits? Write them down.  How will you feel when you reach your goal?  If it's a long- term goal, how will you feel as you're progressing?
Imagine it often.

This could be crucial in keeping your resolve.

How will your relationships be affected if you reach your goal?  Imagine it.

Would anyone else like to see you succeed?  How would it benefit them?  Would you like that?  Any career benefits?  Would it mean more money?  How much? Prestige?  New office?  How does this feel?

Any physical benefits?  Less pain?  Smaller dress size?  How would it make you feel?

Write down ALL the benefits, even if it takes you days or weeks to think of them all.  Carry this list with you and read it often.

Think back now:  Have you made any big resolutions to stop some long-term bad habit or to start a new long-term good habit?

Have you ever stuck with them?

So don't just read this and forget about it.  This is a formula for life success that you're being given.  And more than an idea that can only affect a small inconsequential part of your life, this is HUGE!

This kind of habit, skill and "resolve" generating activity can affect every single part of your life...forever.

And it will help develop your character.

The dictionary calls character "A description of a person's attributes, traits, or abilities."

What are yours right now?

Well, I'll tell you, if you can stick to even one important resolution or goal, right to the end, because of constantly keeping your focus on the benefits, then your personal attributes, traits and abilities will all grow in direct proportion to your commitment to keep those benefits firmly in front of you in vivid, living color.

You CAN do it. I know you can.

Happy New Year!

Let's make this year your best year ever!

Today's Winning Beliefs

-- I am a goal achiever, through and through
-- When I commit to something I stick with it
-- I keep focused on the benefits of reaching my goals
-- Benefits are what compel me and drive me toward my goals

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