Chapter 69

Bring Out The Best

Today's Empowering Quote

"For if the trumpet give an uncertain sound, who shall prepare himself to the battle?"
-I Corinthians 14:8

Today's Empowering Question

"Do I expect of myself all that I am capable?"

Today's Fast Session

Harvard University researcher, Robert Rosenthal, did a study on a number of elementary school teachers.  He went to the schools and informed the teachers that he was going to give their students a test that would identify academic potential...

But the test was a hoax.

Instead, he chose the students randomly and told the teachers that the students he identified were brilliant...that they were geniuses.  These students would definitely
excel, he told the teachers, if they were given support and guidance.

By the end of the school year, the majority of those students had improved their IQ scores and their grades had improved dramatically...

And some of those students happened to have been some of the worst students up until that point.  These teachers were given no special training.  All they knew was that they had some "stars" among them.

Rosenthal performed the same tests with college professors, and the results were just as dramatic.

This is known as the Pygmalion effect, so named after a story in Greek mythology. The Pygmalion effect is real.  It's working every day, every minute... either for us or
against us.

So here is the situation...

Here you are, with your career and your family and all the other things that make up your life.  And you may excel in one or more areas.  Maybe you're even the head of a large organization.  But it doesn't matter if you're on the bottom or the top.  This incredible force called negative expectation is no doubt working against you in some form in one or many areas of your life.


Your past scripting, or past experience, has "taught" you that people you know are going to perform in expected ways.  When you meet people, you'll place your imagined level of expectation on them based on their appearance, their vocabulary, what you've heard about them, their education level, their tone of voice... could be any number of things.

In an inordinate number of cases, the people in our lives will perform exactly as we expect them to... because we treat them how we see them.

You need to raise your expectations of the people you meet and know.  Expect people to follow through.  Expect them to excel.  All people.  Treat them in ways that show what you expect.  Tell your "team" members that you think they're champions, that they can succeed, that you're committed to them and to their growth...and your own.

Ever hear of Marva Collins, arguably the greatest teacher in history?  She treats ALL her students as if they could become the President some day.

After becoming disillusioned with the Chicago public school system she taught in for 14 years, she started her own school in her own home.  Since then, she has taken kids labeled retarded and un-teachable.  She's provided them with love, compassion and understanding.  She has a firm belief that each student will learn. She absolutely will not let them fail. Failing is not an option.

What she has achieved is miraculous.

To learn more about Marva Collins, you can read her books.  A movie about her life was made, starring Cicely Tyson. Her web site is

While we're helping bring out the best in others, what about you?

Don't think I forgot about you. This is really about you.  You can't bring out the best in anybody if you don't even believe in YOUR own abilities.  Take the empowering beliefs at the bottom of this letter.  Read them every day with conviction and belief that you are the person you're affirming to be.

Expect more from yourself than mediocrity.  Expect greatness.

And just as sure as the sun will rise tomorrow, you'll become that person.  You'll persuade yourself to want to be even more.  And in the process, you'll have what you truly want in this life, no matter what it is you desire.

After all, how do you think great teachers, mentors and coaches bring out the best in others?

They encourage, inspire, push, cheer lead, teach and love.  Through the repetitive daily reading of the most empowering beliefs, you'll become your own best success coach.

And it's only then that you can begin to reach out and teach what you know... and change the world.

Today's Winning Beliefs

-- I expect excellence of myself and those around me
-- I am a great coach and cheerleader to myself and others
-- People like to be around me because I bring out the best in them
-- I let go of all doubts about my own abilities
-- My abilities are growing stronger today
-- I expect to win

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