Chapter 5
What Are Your Aspirations?
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Today's Empowering Quote
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"There is no shame in having
fallen. Nor any shame in being born into a lowly estate.
There is only shame in not struggling to rise. And also shame
for not wishing to attain the better. Or not dreaming about it
and praying for it."
--Samuel Amalu
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Today's Empowering Question
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"How did those people get there?
How did they become that way? Was everything given to them,
was it genetics, or a loving mother? Or was it planning and
dedication that got them to where they are, to be who they are?"
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Today's Fast Session
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The people who have a number of
possessions or "status" that didn't earn it are known as being "born
with a silver spoon in their mouth"... or state l*ttery winners.
But statistics reveal that the average
rich person that doesn't have to work for what they get doesn't know
how to keep it, or anything else in their lives - and becomes the
type that just can't make anything work.
They get trained to live their
lives with their hands out to Mommy and Daddy. If that sounds
a bit hard to believe, read 'The Millionaire Next Door.'
Whether you're wealthy or not, giving
your kids everything creates social and financial cripples.
Most follow-up research on L*ttery
winners shows the same thing. Within a short time, it's all
gone. They didn't EARN it, never learned responsibility with
money, so they're helpless against every expensive temptation there
is. So even if you win, you lose.
My possibly unpopular opinion is this:
Stop blowing your money on l*ttery tickets. Figure out how
much you spend on them and that expensive daily gourmet cappuccino,
and put exactly that much in a money market fund every week or two
and become rich the proven way - slowly. Surely. But how
do you start to get the discipline to be able to do something like
that? To achieve any worthwhile objective?
Goals.
The average person has no long-term
goals. And the word creates a lot of confusion.
Most think a goal is a goal when it's
something like: You want to be rich; want a screen star body; win a
gold medal; get an advanced college degree; in short, to desire
something really huge. The
trouble with big goals is not that you're dreaming out of your
league--it's that very few set goals in such a way that they ever
get accomplished. Like everything, there's right and wrong
ways to do it. You can buy books, and go to seminars to learn
how. I did. But honestly, it boils down to a few simple
steps and some things you can do to ensure that you'll stick it out
and be there at the end with your hands raised high.
The first mistake everyone usually
makes is getting excited about having something - prompted by an
external source, a commercial maybe. Wrong way to start.
I know I sound like a broken record,
but setting and achieving goals is not REALLY about what you get as
much as it is what you become during the process of attaining your
goal. When you ARE more, you'll get more automatically now and
in the future. A natural
by-product. What you need to
do first is look at an area of your life that's causing you some
trouble. You are in pain about it. Emotional, physical,
whatever. Choose an area that
gives you a big one of these "pains." I mean, why go after
something you really don't want badly, right? Getting rid of a
gnawing pain that you've had for a while is a great way.
Getting rid of the fabricated pain that a commercial stirred up and
then proposed to cure is often the wrong way...
The "I'm a sheep" way. Baaaaa!
Take your pain and look at it.
What does it cost you to have the problem or lack? Write down
the physical costs, emotional, mental, social, spiritual, financial.
Spread it out for 1, 2, 5 and 20 years. Feel it. Get by
yourself and do this, because you just might need a few tissues
during this process. Take your time.
It's been a long time that you
haven't had this "goal" so a little time spent doing this is an
investment. Trust me.
This will give you determination you didn't think you had. Let
me tell you. You have it...
You just have to find this pain and
then keep it handy. When you
have that, you'll have a base for the setting of a goal - a goal
that inspires you to keep going... to reach down deep.
Do this exercise and you'll begin to
see the power of starting out intelligently instead of letting
others control your goals for you.
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Today's Winning Beliefs
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-- I set goals based on my real needs
and desires
-- Today I'm setting my sights on defining what I want
-- I'm willing to put the effort in to achieve my goals
-- I enjoy the process of setting and reaching worthwhile goals
-- I set goals the right way
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